What is the most valuable thing you possess? Most would jump right to money, others to various other assets or valuables like properties, cars or even sports memorabilia. If you’d of asked me this question 10 years ago I probably would have answered the same way, but 5 years ago God changed my heart and mind and since then my evaluation of things has been completely different.
Next weekend my beautiful, energetic, stubborn princess Sophie will turn 4-years-old and just about 3 short weeks after that we’ll be welcoming our 3rd child, a son named Gavin. On top of all of that I have son turning 7 in June and my wife and I will be celebrating our 10th Anniversary. I’m a little overwhelmed at the moment, as is my wife, but Mary and I wouldn’t change it for the world.
You see, when Joey was born my outlook on life was a little skewed in the wrong direction. Mary and I were still newly wed and like most newly weds weren’t rich by any means. Money was tight and I had a stint where I was jobless so ultimately our stress levels were elevated as well. There were times we thought we couldn’t make it and we asked for help, but we always had just what we needed, stress and all. I remember during those times that I’d get up in the middle of the night and I’d sneak into Joey’s room (he must have been one and a half or so) and I’d just watch him sleep. Seeing him would take all of my stresses away and help me realize that everything was going to be OK even in my darkest hour. I knew this because we had been through a bible study that said that God wouldn’t put anything on us that we couldn’t handle. This promise made me learn to cling to Him. Even before Joey was born I was certain I didn’t want to be a father because I thought I couldn’t handle it, that i wasn’t good enough, but I saw how important it was to my wife Mary that I gave it a try. From the moment he was born I was hooked and I knew that everything would be OK. Things came full circle in that moment as I stared at joey in the middle of the night and I knew from there on out that we’d be OK and that God would provide, come what may.
Here I stand today, 33 years old wondering where time went. It seems as if Joey was just born a year or so ago, let alone Sophie turning 4 and Gavin about to be born. Time has proven to be the most elusive thing in my life as I can never have enough of it. As I work each day from 8am-5pm with an hour commute each way, I always feel that I just don’t have enough time. But I decided a couple of years ago that the time I do have I plan on making the most of it. I’ve decided that I’ll always be there for my kids and that quality is much better than quantity in most cases.
So today, if you asked me the same question this blog started with, I’d answer this way:
“There are 3 things that are most valuable to me: 1) my family 2) time 3) photos and memories. There is nothing, other than God that is more valuable to me. No price that you could pay would change my mind. I’ve learned in 5 short years that life isn’t measured by the depth of your pockets, but by the strength of your legacy within your family and children. So you if you know me, then I am the richest man in the world. My wealth is not defined by man or anyone but it’s defined by me and therefore I am rich beyond my wildest dreams. Would I do it all over again? As many times as I could because this life we live will be over in the blink of an eye.”